However, he’s not a friend – he’s a friend of a friend –and that’s the difference
Why it is so good to have a mate’s recommendation.
Lots of people spruke the benefits of “contacts” in business, but those contacts are only really any good if they know you very well and are prepared to vouch for you.
In comparison, if you have a close friend that you know well and have worked with and seen each other under pressure it just makes that reference to somebody else so much more powerful and meaningful on a number of levels.
For example, recently I was desperately looking for some short-term accommodation out near Bullsbrook/Muchea area and it had to happen at short notice for an upcoming job I had been offered.
An old cowboy mate of mine knew an old mate of his, whom he had agisted horses with for years and suggested I see him as he was sure he had another house on the farm that he was doing up for rental.
He called his mate and I duly went and inspected the cute little place and decided to take it there and then.
However, the point I wish to highlight here is that because of my relationship with my new landlord, neither he nor I would put that in jeopardy because both of us were mates of Brian. Moreover, the fact that he( Brian) had recommended this opportunity for me to follow up, neither the landlord or myself would be inclined to do the wrong thing by each other because that would embarrass both of us to our old mate Brian!
I thought what a beautiful iron-clad arrangement it turned out to be. Notwithstanding that we were of a similar vintage and thinking and once we shook hands on an agreement that was that.
Wouldn’t it be nice if all our business dealings had little personal unwritten clauses or allowances in them like that?
Now somebody is likely to jump up and say, “you don’t do business with friends”.
But he’s not a friend – he’s a friend of a friend – and that’s the difference
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